Congregation
So why do we look and act so much like each other on Sunday mornings?
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People in my church are discussing these issues, talking with the minority members in our midst, trying to understand better the cultural barriers we unintentionally erect and that hinder unity. And starting with our church’s minority members is probably the right approach. There are no easy solutions, but it’s probably the obvious place to begin.
But I would like to suggest that marginalization can occur at every point where there is a departure from homogeneity.
Each to each a looking-glass
Reflects the other that doth pass.~Charles H. Cooley on the looking-glass-self.
Identity is a powerful thing. Hard to challenge. Andy’s right. When left up to our own devices, we surround ourselves with those who somehow confirm who we are.
Cooley’s concept isn’t quite so simple. There is an iterative process, feedback, etc. The result can be simple. We wind up surrounding ourselves with people who aren’t necessarily exactly like us–but share some values, priorities, views, etc. that manifest in abstract and concrete ways (not just what we think, but how we choose to spend our time and money). Their choices confirm ours.
In a church, that’s not all bad. We’re joined together with the same vision under God’s grace. But we have to constantly be aware that we bring other expectations, tack on other normative behaviors for what it means to join in to this church body.
We have to ditch these Pharisaical “rules” and quit searching for our identity in each other. I had the chance to see Tony Campolo a couple years back at a youth workers convention. He applied Cooley’s concept to the youth we work with–coming to the point that our goal should be to help the youth find their identity in Christ. I’ll have to dig out the recording.
Like Andy, here are a couple things I’m struggling with:
1) Showing preference.
My brothers and sisters, believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ must not show favoritism. Suppose someone comes into your meeting wearing a gold ring and fine clothes, and a poor person in filthy old clothes also comes in. If you show special attention to the one wearing fine clothes and say, “Here’s a good seat for you,” but say to the one who is poor, “You stand there” or “Sit on the floor by my feet,” have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?
Listen, my dear brothers and sisters: Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him? But you have dishonored the poor. Is it not the rich who are exploiting you? Are they not the ones who are dragging you into court? Are they not the ones who are blaspheming the noble name of him to whom you belong?
If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing right.
James 2:1-8
So who is my neighbor?
2) This darned Putnam research wherein he states that “New evidence from the US suggests that in ethnically diverse neighbourhoods residents of all races tend to ‘hunker down’.”
I’ve dug back out a nicely redmarked and highlighted copy to begin struggling with it again.
My working theory on this all: Diversity isn’t something the church is dealing with to impress the world. It’s more than an aspirational goal. It’s among the means by which we will advance the Kingdom of God in this world and in peoples’ lives. (Expect a follow up post.)
Putnam’s right in some way. It goes against our sinful nature. We’re all broken and isolated by sin. Our stories are all different–every one. Where two or more are gathered–even that’s diverse. All these layers of identity are the abstraction by which we inch beyond that solitude for some earthly communion. Race is the most phenotypically inescapable of these identities, yes. But Andy’s right–marginalization occurs well beyond that (don’t forget poverty and illness).

